Thursday, January 8, 2015

From Right Choice to Best Choice

Decision making has never been my strong suit.  I sit and consistently vacillate between my options.  It could be about what car to lease for the next three years, whether or not to go on a mission trip, do I buy myself a new handbag that I really want or which book I should buy.

They range from the big choices, to the mundane.  From huge to miniscule.

We live in a complex world.  Full of choices.

It makes me think of a Doctor Who episode called Turn Left.  In the episode a woman, Donna, is given an opportunity to remake a choice.  Turn left and work as a temp or turn right and work as a secretary.  When given the option she makes the opposite choice, creating an alternate universe where amazing things she has done never happened.

We come to a cross roads and we can turn left, or we can turn right.  We  make a choice.

When talking about my hesitation in making decisions.  I often use the words right or correct.  I feel the need to make the right choice.  Or the correct choice.

This insinuates that there is a black and there is a white.  That no shades of gray exist in the in-between.

Is there really such a thing?  Can we make a wrong choice?

Sure, our choice can have negative consequences.  Or things we don't like.  But is it really wrong?

Why do I feel the sense that I need to make the right choice?

I've decided to try and change my thinking.  It's not about, "what's the right choice here?"  Or "am I correct when I choose this?"  

No, what I need to ask is, 
"Is this the BEST choice (or decision) for me?"

Chances are high that no decision that I ever make is going to end the world.  It's not going to cause irreparable harm or damage.  It's not going to set into motion a chain of events that cannot be stopped or altered down the road.

What is it that I am doing with these indecisions?  What am I saying?  

I'm still working on that because I'm not sure I like the answer.  

When it comes time to make a choice, or decide on something… my hope is that I remember it's not about being correct.  Or getting it right.  It's about being the best for me.  Getting the best for me.

Remember, many things in life can wait.
But choosing for you, not for others
and The Sunset Won't.

Have you ever struggled with making a decision?  What is it that makes it challenging for you?


  1. I totally hear you! I think at some level we all vacillate when at a crossroads. And I don't believe it's totally wrong to do that either. To each her own, right?

    I realize, however, that as I grow older I'm growing a little bolder in stepping out of my comfort zone, trying out things that I have shied away from before. Isn't that what life is all about? Growing one single day at a time?

    I've been absent from the blogging world for some time now but I'm back. Hopefully to stick around this time :). It's good to be back, reading your thoughts and sharing some of mine, Heather.

  2. Hemapen,
    "Growing one single day at a time" is a beautiful way to put it. I think you're absolutely right. I'm excited as I begin to push myself to the edge of my comfort zone and beyond.

    Welcome back!


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