Thursday, January 26, 2012

Guest Blogger: Melissa from Every Woman, Everywhere

Today's Guest Post comes from Melissa who I met through 20sb.  If your in your 20's and your a blogger it's a great place to connect with other bloggers worldwide.

Thank you Melissa for sharing a lesson that you've learned!

Learning Not to Judge Myself
I used to be so afraid. Afraid that other people were judging me. Afraid that they were looking at me and thinking less of me. Afraid that I wasn’t good enough for them.
And then one day I realized that while yes, I was being judged by some people some of the time, most of the time, I was just judging myself. I was doing it for other people without realizing it. 
Because I would look at another girl and think, “She’s prettier than me. I’m ugly.” I would listen to another person speak and think, “He’s smarter than me. I’m dumb.” I would hear what another wife does for her husband and think, “There’s no way I could do all that. I’m a bad wife.” The list goes on and on. 
And one day it hit me. I was judging myself. Those people didn’t say anything. I thought something. I was hurting myself. 
And that’s when I realized I needed to make a change. Because I have been wonderfully made by my Creator who loves me and thinks I’m beautiful and special enough to die for. I am His daughter. 
So day by day, step by step, I am learning not to judge myself. It’s difficult. I’m not perfect at it. But it started when I realized that I was judging myself. Because now if I start to think it, I can try and stop it in it’s tracks and reverse it. To tell myself where my real worth comes from. But I needed, most importantly, to realize it first, because otherwise I couldn’t start thinking positive things about myself. 

Melissa is a recent graduate who studied political science and writing.  She's currently a stay-at-home housewife, preparing for her first child due in May.  Melissa blogs at Every Woman, Everywhere a blog about women's issues.

1 comment:

  1. This is a great post, and I think many of us are guilty of doing that to ourselves. It's hard to not judge yourself when everywhere you look there are examples of what we're all "supposed" to look like, dress like, talk like, act like, etc.

    Good for you working on not being so hard on yourself!


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